How can I tell what was really going on?

I got suspicious of my gf and asked for her myspace password. What I found was that when guys asked her out she would say she is busy this week maybe next week, for months on end instead of saying she has a bf. Turns out she has always done this to blow guys off, even when single (its true) so she doesn't hurt their feelings. What really concerns me though is that one of the guys told her he is ready to hang out when she is. She wrote this long email back and at the end said she was not sure how much longer we would be together. Thing is, this guy had been after her for several months when she was single and never got a date with her. To top it off she is a no sex before marriage christian, so cheating is out of character for her, especially with this guy. Still I can't ignore what this looks like. She has since slept with me and done a lot more to keep me but the trust is gone and I don't know what to do, she says she was just venting to the wrong person, a mistake. How to find truth?

How can I tell what was really going on?

Well....One thing you could do is when she says she's going "out" and you ask "where to" and she says "no where in particular"

that's when you follow her. Or have a trusted friend (the kind who wouldn't lie to you) follow her around and see what she does.

How can I tell what was really going on?

Sounds like to me she wouldn't have given you the password if she didn't want you to find all this out!!!

How can I tell what was really going on?

I'd dump her. She is a game player. She is not honest with them, why would she be honest with you?

How can I tell what was really going on?

She's obviously taking you for a ride. You say she is a "no sex before marraige christian" then you say you slept with her...so right there she's a liar. She's having fun, so you should too...with someone else.

How can I tell what was really going on?

don't be a myspace drama queen. if shes with you and you know where she is all the time then your OK.

How can I tell what was really going on?

She wouldn't have given you the password if she didn't want you to find all this out!!!

How can I tell what was really going on?

your not going to like this but you have to talk to her. myspace stalking her is not a reliable source of information. it will clear things up for you. you could find out that you've made assumptions and jumped to conclusions.

How can I tell what was really going on?

Sounds like if she gave you her myspace password, she had nothing to hide since she knew what you would see.

I say however, go with your gut. If you really care about her try to leave it in the past and trust her going forward. However, if you don't think you can do that then perhaps it is time to take a break or move on alltogther... and find someone you can trust enough that you have no need to even think about asking for her password. Good luck!

How can I tell what was really going on?

You can tell wha tis really going on if you pay attention to what you posted.

You are suspicious of your gf. --Talk to her-you either trust her or you don't. If you don't, get a new gf. If so, leave her alone.

You asked her for her password, and she didn't tell you to mind your own business.

Then you found out she doesn't tell anyone she has a bf, and in fact, told some long-winded email that she was thinking of leaving you. HELLO???

She has a problem telling the truth, that she is in a relationship and shouldn't be talking to other guys like she is on the hunt for a new one.

To top it off, she is a no-sex christian, but she had sex with you to "keep you."That means she is NOT a no-sex Christian, and that she gives in to badgering. It also means you do not respect her boundaries and co-erced her to go against her standards to "keep you."

The truth will set you and her free.

You don't respect her, you don't trust her, and she knows it.

She is looking outside of your relationship for value and validation.

She is afraid to tell you the truth, until she has secured a new guy. You are afraid to tell her the truth because you know she will leave you.

Not much of a relationship, IMO.

Grow a set and tell her goodbye.

She should have already left you.

I would have if you had made me have sex-and more-to keep you interested in me. Either you want ME or a whore who looks like me. Pick one.