Husbands Affair may have produced a baby?

three years ago my husband had an affai. The girl said after the first week she was pg and then she lost it. Then a few months after he was back home she called him and said she was pg again. Then she called and said it was not his. Now three years later she found him on myspace and said the little boy is his. SHe said she wants him to know his dad and that she never lied to anyone. She married and said the little boy does not call him dad. She told me I am a side item and that I need to stay out of it. She said it is between her and my husband. She told me to shut my christian mouth because she was pissed. She has lied so many times I don't trust her. I have not called her one name or been mean to her at all. I told her I want what is best for the baby. She told me to stay out of it. I told her I am behind my husband 100% no matter what. She is very good at getting her way and working what she has to get it. What should I do! PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!

Husbands Affair may have produced a baby?

Have him get a Paternity Test... no more lies just DNA. If he so happens to be the father then you and your husband will need to take this to the courts so they can decide about child support and visitation since it doesn't appear she will cooperate nicely and you and your husband need to address her and say she needs to respect your place as his wife and there is no need to be disrespectful to you to just put her in her place in the most stern and respectful way possible she should also be told that this has nothing to do with either of you it comes down to him and his possible son. You and your husband also need to address his infidelity issue but that something totally different.

Husbands Affair may have produced a baby?

Take it to the maury show, so i can see too.

Husbands Affair may have produced a baby?

Get a paternity test done. If the baby is his he has responsiblities to it, if not tell her to take a hike.

Husbands Affair may have produced a baby?

If she wants your husband in the child's life then I would say that first she has to prove paternity. It shouldn't be your expense to bear. I admire you for standing behind your husband. I hope you have made a happy life together. Do not let this woman destroy what you have. Good luck to you, hon.

Husbands Affair may have produced a baby?

One I wouldn't be with a husband after he had an affair on me, that's just me, but what do you have really? Second I would get a paternity test immediatley, get a court order if you have to, but get it done!

Husbands Affair may have produced a baby?

I would suggest first have blood tests done to check paternity then go from there. This is the only sure way to start the procedure.

Husbands Affair may have produced a baby?

You have to get a test done to prove he is the father first.

Husbands Affair may have produced a baby?

You have every right to be involved in this. First of all she was the one sleeping with your husband. I would make sure to get a paternity test before your husband goes any further. You are a big threat to her and she is probably trying to get back with your husband. She doesn't need to be so mean to you. You have never did anything to her in fact she is the one who almost messed up your marriage.

Husbands Affair may have produced a baby?

two words: paternity test.

get the results and go from there. good luck!

Husbands Affair may have produced a baby?

Get her straight on somethings:

1) you are NOT the side item. SHE is. Because he is YOUR husband, not HERS

2) Tell her this is between YOU and YOUR husband and HIS baby

3) Tell her you will NOT stay out of it, if the baby is his, then you are the step-mom. You also have a right and responsibility to this baby.

Get a paternity test. Because I really think her marriage is not working out for her and she is trying to get back with your husband. If her marriage is so great, why would she do this after 3 years. If the baby is your husband's, take it to a lawyer and draw up child support and visitation schedules. Get a court order because this girl is trouble. If she ever says anything mean to you, tell her to be very careful about the things that comes out of her mouth. Because the next she says something mean to you, you'll get the lawyer and fight for the baby's custody. She'll loose her baby and be left with nothing.

Husbands Affair may have produced a baby?

One...it isn't between her and your husband. You have a vested interest here.

Two...she obviously has spread her legs for more than just your husband. Her lying verified that.

Three...screw her. Ante up with a paternity test (tell her that) other than that, her creditbility is zero.

Four...remark to your husband that he would have been better off with the clap because this is one problem that isn't going to go away.

Five...if she has a myspace account and posts there that porves beyond a doubt she's a scumbag. Only scumbags post their entire, dull, boring and psycho lives on MySpace or any other forum.

Husbands Affair may have produced a baby?

first of all it is your business because you are his wife. and she put you in this, not you. if she cant talk to you with respect then i wouldnt allow her to call my house. he should no doubt get a paternity test and go from there. i wouldnt let her call anymore until theres a date to be set for paternuity.

Husbands Affair may have produced a baby?

In a way she is right for telling you to shut up, seems like your husband has taken a back seat and letting you negotiate. If he was man enough to sleep with her then he should be man enough to face her, ask her for a paternity test and if the baby is his, then the you and your husband have to decide how to deal with it. If it is your husbands child, then you can tell this woman in her face, look you will now have to deal with me, cause I am going to be a part of this child's life like it or not. Until then Shhhhh....

Husbands Affair may have produced a baby?

WTF are you doing still MARRIED to this guy? i would have dumped his nasty butt ASAP after i found out he had an affair. divorce him, and let him solve his own problems.

Husbands Affair may have produced a baby?

She sounds like a tramp. Get the paternity testing right away.

Husbands Affair may have produced a baby?

the first order of business is to get a dna test to prove that he's the dad. if it's yes and you're ok w/it then he can petition the courts to pay child support and also have visitation rights which she can't deny under the court of law. let's just pray that he's not the father and you can all go your separate ways. but if he is then you are a strong woman for even taking him back.. but if you stayed you have to let this go and just keep supporting him like you have been,but i'd keep a close eye on him if i were you. she's just mad b/c he chose to go back home to his family,but she is right that it's btwn the two of them,but i would be in the room when he has to to talk to her but until parternity is established he really shouldn't be talking to her. i hope it all works out for the best take care. email me if you ever want to talk. i'm good listener and am not judgemental. take care

Husbands Affair may have produced a baby?

What a rotten situation!

The fundamental assumptions to work on are: the child does deserve to have a mother and a father, and you do have choices.

First, it's imperative to insist on a paternity test. It's necessary to ensure the child's legal rights, your husband's, and yours. Furthermore, it's necessary to ensure that the child's medical history is firmly established. That's going to be something this child will need to know for the rest of his life. If the woman isn't willing to do it, your husband MUST pursue the legal means to get the test done. If he isn't willing to do it, well, I'll get to that in a second.

Your husband's duties are clear. He must determine whether or not he has a child. Then, he immediately begin to establish a relationship with his child and go through the court system to establish an agreement regarding all custody issues. This will include visitation, monetary issues (medical insurance, child support, etc.) and other issues he deems specifically essential. (I personally support an agreement not to live further apart from the child than adjacent counties. This makes transportation easier and prevents tragic arguments in the future.)

Now, PLEASE forgive me for this next part. Before I begin, let me say that I'm a stepmother, and that I do feel incredibly compassion for what you most be going through right now. While what I'm about to say will sound harsh, it really is the kindest truth a person could give to you right now.

You won't have any say whatsoever in any legal agreements your husband makes regarding this child other than the say your spouse gives you. In other words, anything other than private conversations between you two that involve this child will be beyond your ability to affect--even though they will entirely affect you. The court system isn't kind to stepparents, and it doesn't give them many rights at all other than the right to exit the situation entirely. She will have the right to speak badly about you to your husband, your stepchild and you if she pleases. A court may tell her in a document that she ought to stop, but to enforce that...you'll have to go back to court. You'll spend more on a hostile family court dispute than you would on raising the child, eventually.

If your husband is this boy's father, then this woman will be in your life for the rest of the time you're married to your husband...unless your husband is a less than honorable man. If he walks away from his child to make you happy, that's the man you'll have on your hands. If he remains a father to his child, he'll need to work out decisions about this child until he's 18. Consider telephone conversations about schoolwork, behavior issues, visitation times, and all other manner of things. Then, consider the family events after this child is an adult: holidays, weddings, etc. Should this child be your stepchild, your family has just expanded significantly and permanently.

She has the right to tell you to stay out of it, unfortunately. This hurts incredibly...I KNOW...but she has the right to discuss her child with the father--and no one else--if she wishes. That was your husband's poor judgment. You only have the right to discuss this child and your household with your husband. If he's intelligent enough and wise enough to ensure you're an equal authority figure in your home, then that's the extent of your influence.

Take a moment to think this over, though. This is the last time you'll have the right and opportunity to think about this situation as an individual. Your husband had the poor judgment to risk (and possibly succeed at) bringing a child into your family without your permission. Now, against your will you have to contemplate raising a child and bringing a child into your home who will be raised with different values and raised in great part without your consent.

Once this child is established to be a part of your family, you will be a stepmother. No going back from that moment. However, right now you are an individual in a marriage with a person who risked your life (STDs) and future (children) for whatever his invalid reasons were. This child could be a joy, but given his mother's influence and the trauma of what divided custody will produce he has the same odds of being a devastating influence on your life. The fact that your husband isn't already doing what needs to be done (given this question) doesn't bode well.

No woman should be forced to have children without her consent, and that's what this man has effectively risked doing to you. You're already having difficulty with your beliefs, because you're showing the man who violated his direct oath to you more respect than you're showing the woman he may have left on her own with a child. The best help anyone can give you is the following advice:

Consider finding someone who respects you and your love more than this.

Husbands Affair may have produced a baby?

move no 1 == paternity test

everything else comes second.

Husbands Affair may have produced a baby?

Well, if she is married, you need to find out when she got married. If she was married when the baby was born (not necessarily when she got pregnant), then her husband is the legal father of the child. In that case, neither you nor your husband have any financial obligation, and you can tell her she must stop contacting you. Even if they were not married at the time, if her husband has been presenting himself as the child's father, then he might be considered the legal father anyway (depends on the state laws).

If she wants a paternity test done and your husband agrees, she has nothing to say about whther or not you go with him. She and the child don't have to be there. She can take the child to have his DNA collected, and then you can go with your husband to have his collected.

She needs to understand that if she presses this issue and the paternity test is positive, that you and your husband will be asking for shared legal custody and visitation. She wants your husband to be involved in the child's life, then your husband should have legal rights to have a say in how the child is raised.

Don't agree to any requests for support or sign anything until the test is done. Then make sure any agreements are made through the courts to protect your rights.

Husbands Affair may have produced a baby?

tell your husband to man up and defend your rights w/this situation . I had a scare like this w/ my husband I dealt w/the woman and told her would be there for the testing w/my husband .Or it was not happening for some reason the pregnancy disapeared shortly after that.

sometimes its a load of bs and do not put up with it!!