Why do mistresses think that they have "won" when they date married men?

I married a cheater. We lived together for a while, but he wuldn't stop, so I left him. We live in diff states. I found out that he was dating a white woman( I am black), and initially I tried to talk to her so that we could really pin him down. But she was so insistent that I was lying; she basically didn't want to do that. Well, she started stalking me after I left him, telling me when she saw him, when she slept with him etc. It got so bad; I changed all my phone numbers. She kept telling me I was losing to a white woman, but mind you, we are still married and he never mentioned divorce. Well, I am a Christian, and I tried to give him chances, but I just got weary, so I slowly distanced myself from him because I felt that he was never going to change. Well, I checked her myspace a month ago and I found out that they are now living together. She had a msg to me telling me to get a life because they were going strong. I just don't understand why mistresses need to compete with wives?

Why do mistresses think that they have "won" when they date married men?

She is lying to herself - trying to make herself believe that she's won. She probably sees signs of your husband's disinterest in her, but then gives him what he wants, and he comes a runnin' back like a slave. Therefore, she feels like she's won him back, but it is a false security that won't last. Your husband is in bondage to this other woman, not love. She would not be attempting to make you jealous with your own husband if she was all so secure. Remember that it takes two to desire to work on a marraige, so ask God to show you if he will ever change. Is he a Christian too? I'll be praying for yall.

Why do mistresses think that they have "won" when they date married men?

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Why do mistresses think that they have "won" when they date married men?

Guess it's like the "forbidden fruit".

Just be glad you got away from him .... it sounds like they deserve each other. You deserve much better, so wish them well and be glad you're out of the drama.

Why do mistresses think that they have "won" when they date married men?

Because they are very delusional. They can't find their own single available man so they go after one that is already married. She lacks any self respect...has no self esteem...has no morals and no compassion....so she makes herself feel better by saying that she won...she won all right! She won a cheater who will more than likely cheat on her. You ought to congratulate her...she rid you of a cheating *sshole.

Why do mistresses think that they have "won" when they date married men?

Well, I know I won't get the best answer, but simply it's because she's a sorry b*tch, like most mistresses (the only exception is women who don't know the man they're dating is married, and those are RARE). You don't deserve this crap, and if this continues (which it probably will) I would recommend divorce.

Also hon, it doesn't matter what race anyone is. Cheating is, after all, cheating in the end, and it needs to stop.

Why do mistresses think that they have "won" when they date married men?

I really dont think it has anything to do with mistresses needing to feel they have won. I think it has more to do with discrimination. I have spoken to many people from the U.S (I live in Australia) who still hang onto the idea of white supremacy and probably this stupid white woman has the same ideas. She will learn that it doesnt matter what colour you are, she is at risk of him cheating on her. It sounds like he is a "womaniser", and that wont stop just because she is white. Give it time, she will be the loser eventually.

Why do mistresses think that they have "won" when they date married men?

you already knew this man was a cheater before you married him, well my dear you fell into it and now your hurt, sorry

You can never win when you date a married man either you wind up broken hearted or with that man but the same thing he did to his wife with you will come back on the both of them.

your still married and i think that you are still in love with him he never field for a divorce so why worrie your self do you think you want him back after this.

best of luck

Why do mistresses think that they have "won" when they date married men?

The woman is not always the problem. She could not cheat with your husband without his help. As you know no one is holding him hostage in the new relationship. He won't get a divorce, and if he does-she will pay for the lawyer. Seek God and His strength. God will get you thru this. Just remember This too shall pass.

Why do mistresses think that they have "won" when they date married men?

Because unless they repent, they've won an eternity in Hell.

Yay for them.

Why do mistresses think that they have "won" when they date married men?

Very simple - they have no self confidence and so they beat up on weak folks to make themselves feel better. There are good men - just have high expectations and never sacrifice.

Why do mistresses think that they have "won" when they date married men?

Mistresses don't win. If he cheated to be with her, he will cheat on her.

File for divorce. You win.

Why do mistresses think that they have "won" when they date married men?

The bible says you reap what you sow. So what goes around will come back to bite them. Things may look strong between your husband and this woman, but believe me, it will all fall apart. Give it time. God is your avenger. He will take care of them.

Why do mistresses think that they have "won" when they date married men?

Bet she'll dump him, she gets this I'm the alpha- female adrenaline rush, she'll crash, now that you're not competing with her anymore.

In the end, you won, you've got rid of that good for nothing and got his money!

Why do mistresses think that they have "won" when they date married men?

Because she is worried she hasn't won (which she hasn't) and she wants to make sure he can't try to go back to you. As long as she is keeping you worked up she is confident you won't have anything to do with him.

Why do mistresses think that they have "won" when they date married men?

"Winning" a cheater isn't winning. He will cheat on her too. Maybe she thinks he is choosing her over you and she obviously thinks he is worth having. You don't know what he told her about the break-up either. Mine told his gf I was a fat b--- that took his kids. None of that is true! You should have seen her face when she actually saw me and he had left her...and the kid he made with her.

Don't worry about it. You won. He is her problem now.

Why do mistresses think that they have "won" when they date married men?

There must be some insecurities there if she has to state on her "MY Space" that they live together, and to post a message to you about their relationship is childish. She obviously feels threatened by you for the fact that you are still his wife. But the fact is, he is committing adultery, and you should ask yourself if you still wan to be labled as his wife.

Why do mistresses think that they have "won" when they date married men?

what has she really gained here, just a cheater. but there does seem to be this competition thing with some mistresses where they just have to let u know in one way or the other they won. its insecurity and insensitivity to the feelings of the wife. they are people with no self worth. how could they have any respect for themselves or love themselves if they do others like this. it boosts her self worth and makes her feel superior to show u she won the prize, but eventually she will see that she really didn't get any prize when he does the same thing to her as he did to her. show them u really don't care, do well in life find a new love and move on and just thank god he is with her and not u.

Why do mistresses think that they have "won" when they date married men?

Don't let it bother you, see who's laughing when he's cheating on her, and from the sound of it there's little doubt he will.

P.S. I'd send a message on her MySpace that says, good you've got him why don't you see if you can talk him into filing for divorce and letting me go.

Why do mistresses think that they have "won" when they date married men?

She isn't competing with you. YOU lost a long time ago and you are STILL losing. You are married to a man who is living with another woman...you certainly aren't much competition. Of course you're also blaming the wrong person...but you're not going to balme your husband for making HIS choice...obviously the choice he made wasn't YOU and yet YOU are still clining to him...that's what this other chick meant by getting a life...You're hanging on to a man who doesn't want you.