I am 31 weeks pregnant. I am thankful to have made it this far in my pregnancy with my so far healthy little girl. I have been having a rough past 3 days. My husband has told me that he married me while still in love with his ex and he took my virginity and he didnt even love me at the time. This is horrible news for me.
He has put me through so much since we have been married -- porn addiction, trying to meet women on myspace, carrying pictures of his ex in his wallet and wouldnt carry my pictures, mentally and emotionally abusing me... I dont know what to do anymore. I feel like im becoming weak because today I said if I wasnt pregnant I would commit suicide. I do not need to kill myself + I wont because I love my child and I would really like to raise my child and im so afraid that shes going to die because I have been very upset and crying. Im so ashamed of myself because she is going to have a trash bag of a father. I need to leave him but I am very sick. What should I do?
Pregnant Christian and need comforting advice?
Leave, take everything with you and take him for child support. He's taken you for enough now it's his turn to be taken.
Pregnant Christian and need comforting advice?
Try to hang in there til you have your baby then save as much money as you can, Then get away from this man there is better men at there, that will be good to you and your baby. Good Luck
Pregnant Christian and need comforting advice?
it's going to be ok.
Loving God
protect me with
Your Love,
Prevent others
from viewing me with hostility.
Never allow
the negativity of others
to influence my life
or affect my destiny.
Oh how much good
I've lost
in losing control
of my anger;
such a large portion of life,
so much growth
I've let slip from my hands
by allowing my burning thoughts
to get better of me.
God,
teach me to let go.
God of wonders,
You've given me
the most wonderful
of all gifts--
the gift of free will.
May my will never deviate
from Your holy Will.
Guide me always,
so that all the choices I make
are good ones---
choices that are
in harmony with Your Will,
as long as I live.
God of unfathomable goodness,
the history of human agony
haunts my soul;
ashes, blood, and cries
pierce my heart;
diabolic schemes of oppressors
plague my mind.
Grand me an extra measure of
strength,
understanding
and faith
to help me find You--
to discover Your Light
midst the blinding dread,
through the revolving horror.
God, perfect God--
You created me
destined for perfection;
how far have I wandered
from that destiny!
How much of my purity
have I squandered
through careless, thoughtless,
self-centered behavior--
behavior wanting in morality
and holiness.
Overcoming Doubt
My vision is distorted,
loving God of truth.
I want to see clearly,
but my heart leads me
through twisted, convoluted paths
of misunderstood impressions.
Straighten those paths
so that I can strengthen myself
in the conviction of my beliefs.
Troubles
Kind, Loving, Mighty God:
Stretch out Your hand
to strengthen me.
Lift me up
from my abyss;
right my wrongs;
turn my every failure
into success.
Look upon my troubles
and say,
"Enough!"
Oh, God
Your Creation resonates
with holy sounds
Let me hear them all.
Let them penetrate my heart
and rouse my senses;
the jangle of a charity box;
the voice of an faithful teacher;
even the intonation
of my own sign
when I cry out to You--
all these sounds are holy.
Oh, God
let my heart hear them all
and be uplifted.
Ruler of the World,
grant me truth!
Spare me from the lies of others,
Help me stop myself
from lying
to others
Save me
from lying to myself,
and spare me
from the lies
of my own illusions.
Oh, God
never let me live a lie,
even for only a moment.
Center of all existence
help me find the way
to that sacred sanctuary
within myself,
to that precious center of my existence.
Help me discover
my place in the World--
that space where I truly belong,
that space which belongs
unconditionaly to me
Dear God,
I've wandered for so very long,
Help me find my way
home.
Harmful Words
O God,
help me avoid
every abuse of speech.
Let no untrue word, escape my lips.
I pray that I never
speak badly of others,
or speak empty words of flattery.
Help me stay away from profanity.
Teach me, dear God,
when to keep silent
and when to speak;
and when I speak O God,
save me from using
Your wonderful gift of speech
to humiliate or hurt
anyone.
Sensitive Speech
God of understanding,
guide me,
for my own words sometimes
baffle me.
When I relate to those around me
insensitively;
when I hurt,
embarass
or insult them;
when I speak with a callousness
that causes pain;
when I lose myself
in my own ego----
God, pull me back to reality.
Help others understand
that I too am in pain,
and let them be forgiving.
In Thanks
God, ever my only Support,
You've taught me to pray----
to sigh,
to cry,
to awaken true, meaningful words
from deep within:
words that strengthen;
words that easy my pain
and heal my wounds;
words that dispel darkness.
Thank You, God,
for opening my lips
and for teaching me
to seek You
through prayer.
Focused Prayer
O dear God,
how I want
to pray,
but the distractions
are never-ending.
Please----
help me overcome them.
Help me be
wholly focused.
For once
help me pray
only true,
totally hearfelt words
to You,
dear God.
Perception: Body and Soul
Holy One,
grant me the wisdom
to bring harmony
to the alliance
of my body and my soul.
Let them rise together
in my devotion to You.
My soul perceives Your light----
let my body discern it too.
My soul sounds Your praise----
let my body sing it too.
Wise Counsel
O God,
how can I make my way through
the confusion
and uncertainty
that cloud so much of what I do?
Guide me to wise teachers and mentors,
whose advice is pure
and in tune with Your Will.
Guide me to true friends,
whose counsel is caring
and promotes my best interests.
Guide me to clear, correct decisions,
to conclusions that are sound
and free of all doubt.
Clarity and Assurance
O God,
grant me clarity
and assurance
in whatever I do.
Teach me to trust in wise teachers ----
to learn from their insightful words,
Teach me to trust in true friends----
to treasure their care and concern.
Teach me to trust in myself----
to judge my own course
correctly,
and so to live
with conviction
and hope.
Miracles of Nature
Dear God,
open my eyes
to see
the countless amazing miracles
You perform for me
constantly.
Open my mind to understand
that what appears to be
the natural order of things is in truth miraculous
in every way,
Your guiding Hand
directs and empowers me
in everything I do.
Recognizing Life's Miracles
Open my eyes,
O God,
to the marvels that surround me.
Show me the wonder
of each breath I take,
of my every
thought,
word
and movement.
Let me experience the miracles
of the world I witness----
ever mindful
and always appreciative
of all that You have made.
Pregnant Christian and need comforting advice?
nothing is going to happen to your baby from being upset. i went through my pregnancy with a husband like him. you need to leave. go to your local dss office and ask information on where you can go to leave him. and that you think this could harm your pregnancy and your baby after shes born. they will be able to find you somewhere to go to fit your needs. or if you have family go to them or have them come get you. God does not want you to be in a situation like this. do whats best for your baby
Pregnant Christian and need comforting advice?
talk to your parents... everything you describe is awful, but the fact you're pregnant leads you to suicidal thought and thinking the situation is unbearable. You need to see a doctor for the baby's sake. He should tell you how to keep the baby healthy. For your sake you should leave this man. you are strong and do not need him, because he's making YOUR life miserable. He'll hurt your children more than he'll help them. Do you still have a good relationship with you parents?? If so talk to them...obviously you need to talk to someone if you're asking Yahoo Answers. Do not be embarrased it's not your fault you were innocent and this awful man tricked you. If you deside to leave him you may be able to move in with him or a friend. If you try sticking it out, you MUST solve your marriage problems. Everyone goes through problems, so SOLVE them. Either solve your problems or dump this guy. You're young and have alot of life left, but you don't need to waste it on this guy if he continues this behavior.
Pregnant Christian and need comforting advice?
Listen sweety, you gotta do what's best for that beautiful girl inside your belly. I KNOW you love yourself more than anything so get the thought of killing yourself out of your mind. It's time for you to leave your husband..I know it may be hard with the baby and all..but please...leave him. I know you have family who'll help you raise your little girl. I know you're sick and you know why? Because you're stressed. Stress can kill you. Please, please, consider the health of your baby..I know that's the most important thing to you. And build your self esteem a little bit. Pray..everynight..that's what you need to do..pray for patience and strength to get you thru this situation. God will NEVER lead you wrong. You should know that. Also, pray for your husband. Pray that God has mercy on his soul because he will definitely pay for what he's doing to you. I'll be praying for you sweety. I really Hope you make the right decision for you and your baby.
Good luck.
Be Blessed....
Pregnant Christian and need comforting advice?
First I would leave him and if that is not possible right now then may Gob be with you and protect you. Second you can always talk to the head of your church or a professional. They may also be able to get you some help. Keep strong God doesn't give us more then he knows we can handle. God be with you and your baby, I hope this helps you.
Pregnant Christian and need comforting advice?
Hon the person who told you that nothing can happen from being upset is very wrong! I went into pre-term labor at 34 weeks due to stress... so i was a little farther along than you... Hon. contact me.. we have ALOT in common... I would love to talk with you.. and possibly help.. well. .as much as I can anyways... please contact me!
Pregnant Christian and need comforting advice?
I am so sorry you are going through this. from what you have said, it sounds that this relationship will not be able to recover easily from what has happened. I think you know that you need to get out of it if it is making you feel as bad as you are right now.
if you have family or friends who can help you during this time, I would turn to them and let them help you find a different place to live even if it is temporary while you and your guy figure out what it is you want.
You will be doing the right thing by taking care of yourself and your child. You want to be surrounded with love and a positive environment and it doesn't sound like you are going to get that where you are now.
Be strong. You know in your heart what you will need to do.
Pregnant Christian and need comforting advice?
Come on you have a lot of us to talk to, for start you have me and I need you. So he has said some hurting things remember things can only hurt us if we let it, that may be a little hard to grasp just now but believe me when I say GOD has a way of working these matters out don't worry trust GOD
Pregnant Christian and need comforting advice?
look sweetie, i am christian mother . it's been almost 1 yr i got separated with husband. my child is 4 yr and doing much better with out him . be strong especially for a bless child.it is true whatever you feel the baby feels it . i was married for 9 years. he had an affair when my baby was 2 yrs of course got very upset . i kicked him out . i will not be with someone just for my child . be strong and you and baby will do better with out him. if not you will always will be suffering cause of him . do it for u and baby . God bless you both. any ? need to talk look me up :)
Pregnant Christian and need comforting advice?
Look in the phone book right now -- find the number for the nearest abuse shelter, and while your husband is out and about -- give them a call -- and talk ... because they WILL Listen and be able to help you through this difficult time if you pay attention to their advice.
You need to stop crying .. this is NOT your fault -- it is HIS --
The good thing is that you recognize this IS Abuse -- and at this point, stress on you is going to stress your baby as well ... which is why you need to find the Abuse Shelter and Hotline and get their help and advice.
Make a safety plan for yourself/your soon-to-be-born child -- do you have any family you can go to for help? Any Friends? Any way of supporting yourself when you do leave this horror?
Please start putting money aside (as well as what you can -- even if you have to rent a small storage locker or start shipping things to your family member's home in boxes) -- just do it -- a little at a time, so that you will be able to set up your own household.
Then ... get the safety plan done -- one where you have your skills written down (and get a job), open your own bank account, start making plans to be a SINGLE MOM.
You already know that you have the COURAGE to LEAVE -- now just take the next steps and start leaving ...
The reason I keep emphasizing this .. is BECAUSE ...
I, myself had a short disaster of a marriage to a violent, abusive ex -- one who took everything from me (including the savings I had from MY Earnings), and yes, I FLED with my infants with me -- and DID make it as a Single Mom.
The ABUSE will NOT stop with the arrival of the baby -- in fact, it will accelerate and get worse -- always worse. He may even start to abuse the baby since he will see the child as an extension of the one that he holds in complete contempt (you).
Pregnant Christian and need comforting advice?
Ok, I wonder how old are you? How sick are you? Go to your doctor and proceed with as healthy a pregnancy as you can. You are in the process of creating a miracle! Your SO lucky!!! Drop the loser husband now. The lord is on your side, he gave YOU the wonderful baby. Divorce the husband, get support for your baby and one at a time tackle the problems. Don't let them overwhelm you, just fix things one at a time. Your job now is to take care of yourself because you count right now. A wonderful man that is just right for you is walking the planet at this moment. When the time is right, you'll meet. Happiness is out there. Don't rush to find it, it will find you.
Pregnant Christian and need comforting advice?
I telling you this, you should not be ashamed,you both made an agreement to get married,he is the one that should be ashamed,by lying an keeping that from you in the beginning.Just pray to God for strenght through this and to give you peace doing your pregnacy, I also will keep you in prayer and him in prayer that God would change his heart.You are special to God,and to your future child who will need a beutiful person to raise her and a good example,plus thinking of suiside, will give him a way out. Hold you won't regret it.
Pregnant Christian and need comforting advice?
I would see if you could get some good christian counseling because this is a ton to deal with!! It would be great to go both by yourself and as a couple. However, if your husband is like most men, he won't go--at least right away. He might go later on. Keep praying to the Lord to work on his heart regarding counseling and your marriage. Have strength because your marriage can be saved!
I am a Christian divorce attorney which many may say that this is an oxy moron. However, I really feel like the Lord has lead me to practice in this area. I struggled for years on how a Christian practice divorce law. The Lord has also shown me that he does not want anyone to have their spirit crushed, destroyed or hurt by being in an abusive relationship. Abuse can be physical or mental.
While most Christians agree that it is acceptable to divorce for physical abuse, many are divided on mental abuse. To make a long story short, my own journey has revealed to me that it is also "acceptable" (for the lack of a better word) to divorce for mental abuse. In your situation, while it may not seem so to you, your husband appears to be mentally abusive. I am not saying that you should divorce him, but that if after prayer and counseling nothing changes or gets worse, divorce may be what you need to do for yourself and your child.
Having a child is a joy, but also a stress on a marriage. For people in distress before, a child can put them over. Do as much as you can right now before your child is born, don't delay and put off working on these difficult issues.
I will keep you in my prayers.
Pregnant Christian and need comforting advice?
The Lord?? oh boy using religion huh? I would advise you to seek counseling, because you can harm yourself especially while giving birth? Porn is an addiction many guys have, and it's hard to just get rid of. Meeting women on myspace while married is a little weird. Sounds like this guy has a lot of emotional problems. Do you have parents? sisters? brothers?
Pleas talk to someone, don't hurt yourself.
Pregnant Christian and need comforting advice?
leave your house and talk to someone. get some help. ther eare places for you to go and have your baby and get a new start. do not stay with this looser.
Pregnant Christian and need comforting advice?
Wow, I feel your pain. What's done is done and cannot be changed. Try to focus on the future; what's best for you and your daughter. 1st: Do you currently attend church? If not, you should. If you are a Christian, there's no reason for you not to. This is a testing time for you and you need to recognize that you cannot do it alone, that you need the help of God in order to make it. Many Christians have gone astray because they have separated themselves from the source. Just as a single cell could not survive without the body, the believer cannot survive in the hostile environment from this world without being connected to the body of Christ -his church. 2nd: Does your family know about any of this? You NEED to REMOVE yourself from this hostile environment. Nothing is more important right now than the safety and well-being of both of you. Seek the help of a relative or a church member. If you can move in with your parents, that would be the best thing. Try to find someone whom you are close to and feel comfortable talking to. Preferrably someone mature, who can give you useful advice, perhaps siblings, an uncle, etc. 3rd: Seek counseling for yourself first and eventually for your husband (if you still want to give your marriage a chance). Seek the advice of a pastor. I won't advocate that you seek the advice of 'professional psychologists' because their beliefs are fundamentally different from that of believers. They could probably tell you to divorce the guy, get over it, move on, etc. But they won't be able to tell you why, and won't be able to give you peace. 4th: Pray and study your Bible daily, several times a day. The more you call on His name, the closer He'll draw to you. 5th: Get this book: The Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren. It'll help you tremendously. Oh, and don't forget, try to relax and leave it all to the Almighty, because any stress you may have can affect your baby and you might go into early labor.
Trust the Lord your God and in all ways acknowledge Him. Know that He has a plan for you and everything has a purpose for being. Don't forget, He's the Creator of the Universe, He parted the Seas for Moses to cross, and there's is nothing too difficult for Him to handle. If you will do all these suggestions I have given you, I trust that you will feel much better as you grow in His knowledge. Hope this helps and may the Lord bless you and your child.
Pregnant Christian and need comforting advice?
Tell him you are going to live with your parents for a while. Tell him you need some space to figure out if he is worth holding on to. See what reaction you get. If he doesnt care now he wont care 10 years from now! Child support is atleast 18 years that should wake him up! Hang in their Life has ups and downs, when you hold your baby you will be a new person a mom and nobody can take that from you! Sounds like he is immature and you are very mature. good luck and keep in touch with relatives almost daily.
Pregnant Christian and need comforting advice?
I know that you don't know me personally, but I care more than you'll ever know, and what's happening to you just breaks my heart. I wish I could reach out and give you a big hug.
please don't feel bad about yourself because of the horrible things that your husband has done. that is not your fault in any way. and God knows that. and please don't ever think about suicide. God loves you and He put you here on this earth for a reason. He has a divine purpose for your life, and you are precious to Him. You have no reason to feel ashamed for things that your husband did, that's not your fault. you and your baby are innocent victims. I am a Christian too, and I will pray for you just as soon as I get through writing, and I will continue to pray for you and your baby.
you have to get away from your husband, for your own sake and your baby's. do you have family that you could live with? parents, siblings, church family or friends? that's going to be the first step to getting you on to a better life for you and your little girl, and that needs to be the main focus right now. just start by going to a family member or friends house to stay. being away from your husband will take some of the stress off of you, help you relax, and keep the baby from being stressed. that's a starting place. don't worry. just get out of the house with him. and remember that God is in control, and He will give you the strength to get through whatever you may face in this life. and know that you have a friend who's praying for you and your little girl. you are stronger than you think you are. and you're going to make it through this.
I will be praying for you and your baby. God bless you both.
Pregnant Christian and need comforting advice?
I am so sorry you have to go through this its bad when you are in love with someone and they sont feel the same about you i hope that you have pray to god about this sometimes you wonder how men can do and say somethings but you know what its only going to make you stronger in the end i thought i was have a hard time in my marriage until i read this i think for you and your unborn child it would be best if you let him go its very clear he didnt marry you because he love you he is in love with someone else do you think that will chang
Pregnant Christian and need comforting advice?
Hi Christian, first i would like to congragulate for gettin the boon of becomming a mother.And request u to think positive and never think of the bad as it will have (-ve) effect on the child.
Why do u wan to loose ur life thinkin of a person who does not love u anymore.Forget the past and i suggest u to think of another good person in ur life who can give u atmost love and caring for u %26amp; ur child.This time u will have the support of ur child.We should always think what ever happens is for good , so u have the choice of a loving person for future, so better to forget ur past as a bad dream and carryon with bright thoughts as ur responsibality increases in future , so think of providing a safe future for ur child.Good Luck
Pregnant Christian and need comforting advice?
AS A CHRISTIAN I HAVE FOUND GOD DOESNT GIVE US MORE THAN WE CAN HANDLE EVEN THOUGH WE WONDER JUST HOW STRONG DOES GOD THINK I AM !!
WHEN I WAS 21 AND WAITING FOR OUR 1ST SON MY GRAND FATHER DIED I GOT QUITE UPSET AND HAD TO BE PUT TO BED I WORRIED THAT ALL THIS WOULD HURT MY SON AND TRIED NOT TO CRY OR WORRY ABOUT MY GRAND MA BUT THEN I REALIZED THAT I AM HUMAN SO THAT HELPED I WAS WORRING ABOUT WORRNG
AS FOR YOU YOU NEED TO TRY AND STAY CALM SOME MEN SAY THINGS THEY REGRET AFTER WHEN THEY HAVE A PRGENT WIFE THEY GET SCARED AND ACT STUPID NOT A VERY HOLY WORD BUT NEVER THE LESS TRUE
DONT RUSH IN TO ANY THING BUT IF THE STRESS IS TOO MUCH THEN GO STAY WITH A FRIEND OR YUR FOLKS TIL AFTER THE BABY IS BORN AND IF IT MAKES YOU FILL BETTER I SHOULD TELL YOU MY 3 YR OLD GRANDSON WAS BORN 71/2 WEEKS EARLY AND HE IS A HEALTHY LIL BOY AT 3FT 2INCH AND 40LBS AND HE LAYS HIS HANDS ON WHAT HURTS YOU AND PRAYS THIS PRAYER " MAKE IT BETTER " A-MEN!! HE S JUST TOO CUTE IF HE GET HURT I PRAYAND ALL IS WELL YOU KNOW THE FAITH OF A CHILD IS WHAT WE NEED I PRAY YOU REMEMBER YOUR HEAVENLY FATHER IS IN CHARGE AND HE WILL PORTECT YOU THREW IT ALL ALSO REMEMBR THIS TOO SHALL PASS ITS MY FAVORIT SAYNG IT GET ME THREW GOD BLESS
Pregnant Christian and need comforting advice?
Bless your heart. You should hold your head up. God has blessed you. You are carying a beautiful little girl. You are His child and so is that baby. Don't lose your way.
Pregnant Christian and need comforting advice?
irst,please let me say that i love you!!!!!Ten years ago my daughter had a precious baby boy,she was 15 at the time,the babys father was 25...a sorry excuse of a man,he's never been a part of my grand sons life,but i love my only grandchild more than anything in the world,i believe that all babies are a gift from God,no matter the circunstances,love yourself....love your baby
Pregnant Christian and need comforting advice?
I hope you have friends or family that can help you because for your childs sake you did to leave, get a job/education, place of your own and for heaven's word, get a divorce. The good lord wouldn't want you thinking suicide.
Please get help before your daughter has to grow up in an unhealthy environment.
Prayers are with you and the child
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